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Welcome to YOU.logy. We Are Glad You Are Here!
What is YOU.logy?
YOU.logy is…A Clever Play on Words that Literally Means: A Study of YOU.
All Good Studies Start with a: Genuine Interest in the Subject AND A Desire to Better Understand.
All Good Studies Lead to: Greater Knowledge and Appreciation for What Is.
YOU.logy is Also…A Word that Sounds like Eulogy which Literally Means: 1. A Speech that Praises Someone Highly 2. A Study of What is True, Pleasant and of Genuine Goodness.
All Good Eulogies Start With a: Life Review that Focuses on the Goodness of a Person.
All Good Eulogies Lead to: Words of Appreciation for Who the Person Was,
What they Contributed to the World, And Meaningful Moments Shared.
YOU.logy Could Also Be…A Radical Social Experiment in Loving Kindness
Where We Start our Social Interactions with:
- Genuine Interest In Each Other
- Mindful Presence
- Thoughtful Inquiry & Active Listening
- A Desire to Understand & Find the Good in Each Other
And We End our Social Interactions with:
- Greater Knowledge and Appreciation for Who Someone Is
- And Direct Statements of What We Recognized and Enjoyed About Them
What would happen if we entered our conversations AS IF someday we may be asked to deliver this person’s eulogy?
What would we pay attention to and be interested in?
What would we hope to experience or create with them?
What would we truly know and could say about them?
Rather tragically, eulogies are often the most generous words…NEVER spoken…
to the person who most needed to hear them.
Why do we wait to tell people what we see and appreciate about them?
What greatness might have been inspired if they knew how keenly they were being seen and appreciated?
What kind of world would we live in if even a few of our social interactions were a YOU.logy ?
You.logy is A Personal Passion Project and Social Challenge…
join me in dropping Social Scripts and Routines.
Go into the world with mindful presence.
Pay attention to the people around you with A childlike Curiosity
& A Genuine Desire to Understand them.
Look for their goodness.
& Dare to share ONe thing you appreciated, or enjoyed about them
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What We Haven’t Been Taught…
How are your conversational skills? Do you know? How do you feel after most of your conversations with people? Do you feel seen, heard, and understood? Have you walked away with new information about the person you just shared time with? How well did you understand what they were sharing? Do you even recall what…
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Creating…Connections
My favorite childhood game required several participants and usually began with an excited plea that morphed into a lawyer’s level of skillful persuasion. My zeal for the game was matched by my older sister’s bane. To this day, the start of game play is still linked with two words that sliced the air with their…
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What’s Your Conversational Legacy?
“Melissa, someone could become enlightened watching a piece of trash roll past them.” These were the provocative words of the guiding teacher at the meditation center where I practice. At the time, his words felt a bit irreverent, but they lingered with me. My fourth-grade teacher was the first to say, “Melissa, you have a…