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Welcome to YOU.logy. We Are Glad You Are Here!
What is YOU.logy?
YOU.logy is…A Clever Play on Words that Literally Means: A Study of YOU.
All Good Studies Start with a: Genuine Interest in the Subject AND A Desire to Better Understand.
All Good Studies Lead to: Greater Knowledge and Appreciation for What Is.
YOU.logy is Also…A Word that Sounds like Eulogy which Literally Means: 1. A Speech that Praises Someone Highly 2. A Study of What is True, Pleasant and of Genuine Goodness.
All Good Eulogies Start With a: Life Review that Focuses on the Goodness of a Person.
All Good Eulogies Lead to: Words of Appreciation for Who the Person Was,
What they Contributed to the World, And Meaningful Moments Shared.
YOU.logy Could Also Be…A Radical Social Experiment in Loving Kindness
Where We Start our Social Interactions with:
- Genuine Interest In Each Other
- Mindful Presence
- Thoughtful Inquiry & Active Listening
- A Desire to Understand & Find the Good in Each Other
And We End our Social Interactions with:
- Greater Knowledge and Appreciation for Who Someone Is
- And Direct Statements of What We Recognized and Enjoyed About Them
What would happen if we entered our conversations AS IF someday we may be asked to deliver this person’s eulogy?
What would we pay attention to and be interested in?
What would we hope to experience or create with them?
What would we truly know and could say about them?
Rather tragically, eulogies are often the most generous words…NEVER spoken…
to the person who most needed to hear them.
Why do we wait to tell people what we see and appreciate about them?
What greatness might have been inspired if they knew how keenly they were being seen and appreciated?
What kind of world would we live in if even a few of our social interactions were a YOU.logy ?
You.logy is A Personal Passion Project and Social Challenge…
join me in dropping Social Scripts and Routines.
Go into the world with mindful presence.
Pay attention to the people around you with A childlike Curiosity
& A Genuine Desire to Understand them.
Look for their goodness.
& Dare to share ONe thing you appreciated, or enjoyed about them
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Kaleidoscope Listening
Like most of us, there are many aspects of myself that I remain blind to or incredibly uneasy to claim. But there is one persistent quality that is pure, innocent and stubbornly convicted. I am determined to see the goodness in everyone I meet. To be clear, this has not always served me well. In…
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Agree to Explore
Writing is a slow and arduous endeavor. I recently told a friend the only reason I do it is because writing gives me the time to explore and better understand the many facets of an idea. A white sheet of paper demands a lot of you, and it will prove to either be your tormentor…
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Lost…in Translation
Today, I am not at all embarrassed to say, I am an incredibly inexperienced drinker. My parents’ reprisal carried enough “risk” that I chose to bypass the years when I was young and naïve enough to experiment and make ill-advised decisions with intoxicants. Sure, I engaged in the social initiation of my 21st birthday and…